Every culture has it’s unique customs, and Utah weddings are no exception. Utah’s large LDS population has helped to influence social norms on a wedding day that are different than the mainstream American wedding. If you have landed on this site because you were searching ideas for a “Grooms Dinner”, you may have been surprised how few possibilities there are to search. The average American groom does take care of the rehearsal dinner, but the dinner after the actual wedding ceremony, and before the reception is definitely unique to Utah and the LDS culture.
So, what are the norms? What is expected? Who should be invited? I think the answers to those questions are as varied as the dinners themselves. The only clear answer is the groom and his family pays, and everyone (and that includes all the children) who attended the actual wedding ceremony are invited.
The great thing about a groom’s dinner is there really are no other expectations than that. No need for fancy napkins and decorations. People just want to be fed. It could be as simple as sandwiches in a canyon park or a barbeque in the backyard, to a five star restaurant and a formal program. Anything goes, and as long as the food is good, people are happy. No need even for invitations… people will just expect to come and all you will have to tell them is where it is!
I read of a really fun idea on www.yumsugar.com of an inexpensive way to have fun and feed a lot of people for a wedding meal. She came up with the idea of a “tour of Italy” and made recipes of different pizzas. Her recipes and pictures are on the link.
At the grooms dinner, it is an appropriate time for toasts and well wishes. The environment is more casual, and mainly is limited to very close family and friends. It is a special time to connect with your loved ones.
Now is the fun part! I found something I think we should all start to incorporate into the grooms dinner. Check these cakes, cupcakes, and cookies out! They would make a memorable statement, at very little cost.
Finally, here is a quick tutorial how to make really cute orea groom cookies..
Hope these ideas inspired you, and the grooms dinner turns out memorable, and seamless!