Valentine’s Day is coming and if you’re reading this blog, chances are you’ve got someone special to celebrate it with. But what should you do? If wedding plans are stressing you out too much to think of something creative, perhaps I can help.
I just read this great article in Main Street, a magazine published the same group as Utah Valley Magazine. They suggested finding V-Day inspiration by considering the Five Love Languages. (If you haven’t read the book, The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman I suggest you put it on your to-do list. It’s a fast read and will seriously help you and your fiance as you begin your life together. ) The basic idea is that there are five basic ways that people like to give and receive love. If you ‘speak’ to your significant other in the way they best receive love they will appreciate more. The languages go as follows, Quality Time, Gifts, Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Physical Touch. You can read up on exactly what each one is on the Five Love Language website.
Once you figure out which is your fiance’s love language, use this list provided by Main Street to get some great V-Day ideas.
Quality Time- If your spouse believes time equals love, give him or her tickets to concert, sporting event or play. (I’d like to add, if money is tight right now, you can find a way to spend time together without spending a dime. Go sledding in a park, pack a picnic, plan a movie night with his favorite show and make some yummy popcorn. If he’s really a quality time guy, it probably doesn’t matter what you plan, as long as you’re together)
Gifts- Your gift doesn’t have to be extravagant. Give your loved one a basket of favorites: favorite candy, favorite music, favorite candle, favorite anything! (And for my little two sense I’d like to mention that this category doesn’t mean the person is materialistic, it means they see the thought and love behind the object more than most people would. If something that will make him think of you every time he sees it- a pair of mittens, a new watch, a new tie- you can even write secret a little note in the lining to make him feel extra special each time he wears it)
Words of Affirmation- Write a list of all the reasons you love your significant other or detail your top 10 favorite memories with him or her. The more detailed and specific you get the better!
Acts of Service- Take a few items off that endless to-do list for your partner. While it isn’t quite as romantic as a dozen roses, he or she will appreciate it more.
Physical Touch- Book a massage or spa treatment for your significant other. (I’d like to add that, like the category Gifts, Physical touch is often misunderstood at first. This isn’t all bedroom business, but rather simple things like holding hands in public, or putting your arm around her at dinner. Maybe for your gift you could make an effort to hold her hand whenever you can all day long. Or give her a certificate for a foot massage that she can cash in whenever she likes)